The Impact of a Life Partner: Lessons from 34 Years Together

Today happens to be my anniversary and my wife and I have been married for 34 years. To some that is a very long time. To others who have been married longer than we have, we are on the road to another point in our lives.

God brings people into your life for many reasons. Some come into your life as a friend, others are just acquaintances. Then there are others like my wife who has stood by me and encouraged me through college and my career as a Medical Technologist. Even though that career was shorter than I had hoped it would be, God had another plan which took me in a different direction which brought me to a computer repair shop and I served for a time as a pastor at a small church. A life partner, whether it is your spouse or God, can encourage you and inspire you in many ways. Your life will change when your life partner comes into your life and it will never be the same after that.

Some say that the change could be good or bad, but I believe that anyone who is your partner in life, whether it is God or your spouse, the change will usually be good. I say usually because we sometimes choose to follow the wrong partner or find the wrong one by not listening to God and His guidance in our lives. So, in essence, I am saying that you should seek to know God as your life partner first and foremost, then you will have His help in finding a spouse (if He has planned that for you).

We live in such a mixed up and crazy world today until it is hard to think about finding a life partner because it seems that the world may not last long enough for us to want one around. With all that is happening in the news around the world, if we had gotten married less than five years ago, children would not have been an option for one. i’m not sure anyone could honestly say that they are confident about having a child and watching them grow up in today’s world. Some people have children for other reasons and the possibility of that child having a future is not a part of their thinking.

God forms the child in the womb and He had a purpose for many of us before we were even thought of. Give your heart to Jesus and trust Him as your Savior before you move into another relationship that could be life-altering. He will give you the knowledge and wisdom to make the choices that will be beneficial to both of you, especially if you allow Him to find the right person for you.

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I do because God brought one to me

Do you believe in soulmates? Why or why not?

I’ve been married to my soulmate for 34 years today and my life would have been very different if we had not found each other. God loves us and He knows who will complement us in this life.

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You are blessed by God

If you are mourning, you will be comforted

God doesn’t leave us alone with our grief or in our state of depression. He is always near to comfort, to heal and listen. My life without Him would be a pointless existence and a waste of time because I would be doing my work and my things and not even thinking about Him at all. But…He called me to be a preacher back in 1983. Unfortunately, I ran from Him like Jonah did and I didn’t come back to Him, even a little bit, until my son started asking questions about why we went to church.

I began this blog in 2008 so it is approaching twenty years that I have been on this platform. Sometimes my posts make sense in His scheme of things and sometimes I do post a small sermon that He has given me to write. I don’t have a physical church that I preach at any more but I do have this and God has blessed me with all of you who follow this page. I pray that all of you and more will be in Heaven one day so I can meet all of you.

God does comfort us when things are rough. When our days are filled with pain and anguish, He is there beside us. His Word comforts our soul and our minds when depression hits you like a ton of bricks. When that happens I begin reading Psalms and I don’t stop until the depression is gone and my faith is renewed. The book of Proverbs helps me find a way through many of life’s struggles and there are many other Scriptures from the Old Testament and the New Testament that give me strength and hope when hope seems far away. God loves all of us, but He is not satisfied with our life choices because they go against His commandments.

Read the book of John from the beginning until the end, then read the book of Romans. In these two books you will see the love of God given to mankind through Jesus Christ and you will see His grace given to us through Jesus Christ. Faith is given to us because God wants us to be in His house because without faith we can’t believe in Jesus and become a disciple of His. With faith you can understand God’s message of love and redemption, without it God’s Word can’t be understood. Think about it and be His before it is too late.