Used or Loved? Which are you?

In our world today it seems that there are many people who fall into one category or the other. So, which one are you? Do you feel that you have been used or are you loved? Have you ever felt used? I have. Do you know how much you are loved? That is something which I can’t quantify. My wife loves me, my son loves me, my dog loves me in her own way, but God loves me far more than I will ever understand! God loves each of you more than you will ever know or understand too!

BreakingDownWallsI got a message a few minutes ago about being used or loved. There was a lesson in this message because a man was waxing his car and making it shine and his son came up and scratched a note on the side with a rock. The man became so angry until he spanked the son on his hand but didn’t realize he did it with a wrench until it was too late. The boy’s bones were broken so badly that they had to take his fingers in the operation. The man was so distraught until he went home and found what the lad had written. It was, “I love you, daddy.” The next day the man took his life.

That is a terrible way to use a wrench and it is a terrible way to discipline a child, but you know when that child found out about his dad later, he likely blamed himself. We tend to use people in our lives too and that is wrong. Sometimes we don’t intend to use them, but then again sometimes we do.

Things like a car or a tool are supposed to be used. People like your wife or your son or daughter or your friend are supposed to be loved. Love people and use things like tools or hammers or cars, don’t love a car or motorcycle or even your career. Because when you do this you are using love in the wrong way and it gets our priorities all mixed up.

Even though life itself gets mixed up at times when we are too busy with our extra-curricular activities and our career expansion opportunities. Whatever you call them, many activities take up far more time than our family and it is supposed to be family first. I know, your career has to come ahead of some things just so you will HAVE a career, but don’t you consider a ball game or a piano recital or a karate tournament important too?

While we are on the subject of relationships and how to keep them going, what about the one that you are supposed to have with your Savior? Do you use Him like a 911 service and just call Him when something really goes wrong and you know that you can’t fix it? Or do you walk with Him every day, reading His Word and praying about it and ask Him about how to apply it to your life?

Maybe you fall somewhere in between those two descriptions. How do you think Jesus feels about your relationship with Him? It is true that the word “relationship” doesn’t appear in the Bible but read these verses from John 15 about living with Him;

5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
6 If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned.
7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.
8 This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
9 “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.
10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love.
11 I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.
12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.
13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friend
and isn’t living with Him..a relationship?


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